The art of patience ...
The art of patience I’m sure is something we all have to lean into throughout our lives.
I recently broke my leg, little did I know this was a crash course in the art of patience and I had no choice but to surrender and be patient with the healing process, especially living with other conditions which impacted this.
(Anyone who’s had a broken leg knows that its a long ass process. )
Of course I’ve done things to support it and myself, but the bottom line is I’ve had to be patient and have to give my self grace and be really kind to myself. I knew at my core by doing this it would support the healing process, I know in the past I’ve put up big resistance when I’ve had to be patient with healing. It’s been really interesting for me to sit in this different space with patience and release resistance and allow.
Of course its not always been easy and I’ve felt a lot of feels, but for the first time I’ve embodied being patient in a new way and you know what its helped.
However, even when we know patience is a good thing and I’ve been doing this, it doesn’t mean we don’t find it hard to do, I’m still a life long student.
We are so busy pushing, rushing and want it now in our lives from such a young age, patience doesn’t really come into it. In fact being patient seems like an inconvenience, I’m sure everyone reading this has thought that at some point.
Now of course its about balance I appreciate we don’t want to be so patient we just wait around and not get things done, or we don’t make it happen.
Patience is an ingredient we need to add into everything, it creates space for things to breathe and to let things happen and align in the perfect aligned way and time.
Because we get frustrated with patience, we tend to block things flowing to ourselves even more.
Here’s a thought …. imagine getting present with patience how would that feel, its something I’ve been practising and by no means am I an expert.
Get clear with your relationship with patience, I find we tend to be more patient with somethings than other things. I suggest you look for a pattern here, because it allows you observe in yourself that which you do allow more patience for.
Because from childhood many of us have been rushing and pushing there was no time for patience, so asking yourself how patience feels in your body and nervous system allows you to see where you are at.
Do it feel good in your nervous system?
Does it feel safe?
That may seem an odd thing to say, but if you’ve always been in a rush had no time for patience it won’t feel safe. It won’t feel a good place to be, I know sometimes when I’ve been waiting for things to happen I’ve felt agitated when I’ve pushed against patience. It's felt inconvenient, and just something that is in my way to getting where I need to be or what I want.
It’s interesting how when a child is small we encourage them as they are learning to walk for instance and we are patient with them. Yet as adults we are the opposite with ourselves, if we are learning something and not getting it, or we aren’t making things happen in the way we want. We get frustrated and hard on ourselves and we do this with others too. The truth is no matter what age we are, we have to apply patience because thats how we learn and get better.
Imagine if we applied little more patience to each other and ourselves, I don’t mean without boundaries of course but just some more patience.
Imagine how things would look, and feel, so here’s an invitation to do just that, let’s all engage in developing and allowing with our relationship with patience.
Let’s lean into “the art of patience”!
I’d love to from you and what your relationship with patience is, share with me here.
All my love
Hannah X