Find your declutter rhythm ...

With books and tv shows all about the art of decluttering and organising things, we see rooms and houses transformed to perfection.

I personally love seeing this, and I have one or two friends who live by this. I love going to their houses and seeing their show home and Pinterest-like homes.

But what about the place in the middle, I place myself here. I love to tidy and organise things and find it very satisfying. However the one thing I’ve gained from reading and watching stuff is the importance of finding the right way to do this for you.

I was talking with a friend recently who said she’d followed to the letter, a declutter process and afterwards rather than it feeling amazing she said she felt like her home didn’t feel like hers anymore and it had lost her personality. She’d got rid of some things she didn’t really want to, but because she felt this was what she had to do.

Often these books and shows place rule-like ideas around how to do this, and here’s the thing, this works for some people and not for others, the truth is we are different. I believe its finding the best way that works for you so it becomes sustainable and feels good.

Now my mum for instance is a ruthless person when it comes to clearing out, while I agree sometimes you have to do this initially especially if you’re tackling a lot of stuff etc.

But this way is not for everyone, I appreciate the idea of clearing clutter to create space and clearing out old things you aren’t using. It makes sense, we all know in all areas of life when we create space we can welcome new things and things flow better. There are times in our lives of course where we need to make big changes, and do big releases, however the key here though is making sure this is in alignment with you.

Of course some things hold old memories and depending on those memories it can be a good thing to release the things around these memories. I think the key here is do whats best for you, even if someone else is saying something different. Listen to your true feelings around it, are you holding on for the right or wrong reasons. The truth is only you know the answers with this, but don’t do something that doesn’t feel good just because you read you should for instance because it then becomes out of alignment.

Get someone to help you if you struggle in knowing you need to clear things, and it can also be fun having some one there to help the process.

You may need to make a “maybe” chuck out pile, you can always set a rule that if you haven’t made a decision after two weeks it needs to go. Feel the yes and no in your body, our bodies will always tell us how they feel when we are prepared to listen to them. We’ve all felt that feeling in our tummy’s and hearts.

I love for instance having some old things which I get out every now and then, I’m also someone that likes my own style with certain things. So I like to mix and match old and new rather than blindly follow fashion, plus up cycling is helpful for the environment too.

However, I think we need to find our own rhythm and way with clearing out. We all have our own styles and the importance is not to take your soul out of things else the space becomes clinical.

It comes down to being intentional with it and in a word, “finding grace” with your decluttering process. I like to say a cosmic declutter and that you're designing it in the way that works and flows with you.

Make your process sustainable and one that you feel you can maintain, this is one of reason why people find they go back to their old ways with things.

You may need to start small and build on things and if this is the right way for you listen to this.

Lastly, to sum up get clear on what feels good to you, take inspiration from the experts who do this but stay in your own declutter lane, bring in the idea of creating your own cosmic declutter process. Your home or space and your things need to have your heart and soul in there, no book or idea can do this. Just because something is fashion or a new way it may not be the way for you.

Celebrate the satisfaction of clearing out, releasing things and creating space for things to flow more and new things to come in.

A clearer space feels good, see yourself living in that space too so you embody it.

I’d love to hear if you “Kondo” your life to a T, or what your declutter style is, and if you have any tips, share with me.

Create a space that’s you and “when you love your space your space loves you”.

All my love

Hannah X