Beyond purpose ...

Who am I beyond my purpose?

This is a big question, where in reality there’s no right or wrong answer. It is however an important question and one we should all ponder on and figure out.

Purpose is a word thrown around like confetti now, people are musing the questions.

“What’s my purpose?”

“How do I find my purpose?”.

It has become this illusive thing that people get fixated on, thinking that once they’ve found their purpose that they will be happier and their life will be better and more successful. There’s this notion that if someone has found their purpose they are almost better than someone who hasn’t.

Now while I believe the idea of purpose is great and I’m fortunate to love what I do, what I do know is this that I am not defined by this. If it all changed tomorrow I know who I am beyond this, that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t initially be upset ( no bypassing here haha ). However from my life experience and the journey that I have been on, I know we have to define ourselves beyond our so called purpose, we have to know who we are stripped back beyond all the layers and labels. Something I have personally experienced, through my health and through having multiple times being met with the “what do you do?” question. For a long time I felt shame because it felt like in society that it was something that mattered so much, I felt less of person like I was a little bit of a failure. After sitting with this and exploring this, and speaking to many people who had various levels of unhappiness for multiple reasons and people who felt like they were failing because they hadn’t found their purpose. I started to question things, and to feel into this and to look at why we held so much status and importance to this. Thats when I started to question who am I beyond all of this, beyond the labels, the ideals, the status. I realised that this was actually really important, so explored it and welcomed it. I knew I had to reclaim my worth here, and stop basing my worth on this.

When I realised this, that beyond what we do or what our purpose is etc that happiness, inner peace, mental wellbeing and regulated nervous system were who I wanted to be. It changed everything for me, and slowly but surely, when I was met with the “what do you do?” or “what’s your purpose?”, questions I took my power back and answered my truth said I believed we had to look beyond this and beyond these labels and question our attachment to them and where they came from in the first place. That I believe it’s great when people know their path and love what they do, or love the status of what they do, but we can’t have peoples worth based on this. We have to question what’s beyond this, if its stripped away. I often took people back saying this and some people didn’t quite know what to say or how to react.

In the world of personal development where purpose is seen as a basis of happiness and a way to gauge success, it’s reminding ourselves we do have to look beyond this.

By all means explore the idea of purpose and believe me there’s multiple theories and ways to get there, there’s definitely nothing wrong with it all, its a good thing to be in alignment with.

But you’re worth, happiness and true success is beyond this, and in the end no matter how well we’ve done, it does really come back to love and peace as cliche as that sounds.

So here’s the invitation ….

Who are you beyond your purpose?

Sit with this and do share with me here.

All my love

Hannah X